Hi, I’m Nicole — and if you’re reading this, I want to start by saying something important:
You are not broken.
You are not too much.
And you’re not alone in feeling like you’re carrying stories that don’t even belong to you.
I coach people every day who feel stuck in roles they never chose—trying to live up to family expectations, cultural norms, or ideas about love and self-worth that don’t feel aligned anymore. These stories might have been passed down for generations. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep living by them.
Let’s talk about how to change that.
The Stories We Inherit
From the time we’re kids, we absorb the messages around us. Sometimes it’s through words. More often, it’s through silence, side glances, or watching how our caregivers treat themselves and others.
We learn:
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How love “should” work.
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What makes us valuable.
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What parts of ourselves are acceptable—and which ones should be hidden.
These aren’t just personal beliefs. They’re often generational and cultural narratives passed down through families, shaped by tradition, trauma, or survival. Maybe your parents didn’t talk about emotions. Maybe you were taught that your worth comes from what you do for others—or how much you sacrifice. Maybe love, in your world, was conditional.
If any of that feels familiar… you’re not alone.
The Impact: Love, Worth, and Identity
Let’s break this down. When I work with clients, I see how these inherited stories tend to show up in three major areas:
❤️ Love
You may:
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Stay in relationships that feel one-sided or chaotic.
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Fear being vulnerable or asking for your needs to be met.
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Confuse love with self-abandonment, overgiving, or staying quiet to “keep the peace.”
🌱 Self-Worth
You might:
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Tie your value to your productivity, appearance, or being “the responsible one.”
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Constantly question whether you’re enough.
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Feel guilty for resting, receiving, or taking up space.
💫 Identity
You may:
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Struggle to define who you are outside of family expectations.
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Feel torn between who you want to be and who you were taught to be.
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Hide your truth—whether that’s your passions, sexuality, emotions, or dreams.
Rewriting the Narrative
Here’s the good news: These stories are not permanent.
Once you become aware of them, you can choose something new. You can write a different ending.
This is what I help people do in my coaching practice. Together, we unpack the beliefs and patterns that have been running the show for years—often without you even realizing it. Then we work on creating new narratives that actually feel true and aligned.
What This Work Looks Like
What This Work Looks Like
This isn’t about blame. It’s about healing. And it’s about giving yourself permission to stop playing a role that was written for you by someone else.
Here’s how we do it:
🧒 Inner Child Healing
We connect with the younger version of you who learned those old rules about love and worth. We give that version the love, safety, and voice they didn’t get before.
🧘 Somatic Awareness
Sometimes your body holds stories your mind can’t explain. We tune into physical responses, tension, or numbness as clues to where deeper healing is needed.
🪞 Identity Reclamation
Who are you without the pressure to perform, conform, or prove? We explore who you are when you’re fully you—and build from there.
🌻 Values Clarification
What really matters to you? Not what your parents, culture, or society say should matter—but what you value. That becomes your new compass.
💖 Self-Worth Practices
We create space for you to stop earning your worth and start embodying it. Through rituals, boundaries, and mindset work, we build your relationship with yourself.
A Glimpse into the Journey
This work happens in stages. Here’s what it might feel like:
1. Awareness
You begin noticing patterns and inner voices:
“Don’t be too emotional.”
“You have to do everything right to be loved.”
“If I rest, I’m lazy.”
It can be uncomfortable—but it’s also the beginning of freedom.
2. Resistance
Letting go of these beliefs can feel scary at first. You might worry what others will think, or feel like you’re betraying your roots. That’s okay. You’re not doing it wrong—this is part of the process.
3. Healing
As we go deeper, you start softening. You forgive yourself. You start listening to your needs. You stop pushing so hard to prove something. You begin to come home to yourself.
4. Rewriting
You start living differently:
“I am enough, even when I rest.”
“Love doesn’t have to feel heavy.”
“I get to choose my truth.”
This is where your life starts to reflect who you really are.
Stories From My Clients
Maria’s Transformation
Maria came to me after ending a toxic relationship. She realized she’d grown up believing that love always required sacrifice—and that her needs weren’t important. Together, we uncovered where that message came from and replaced it with a belief that love can be reciprocal, grounded, and nurturing. She now sets boundaries with confidence and chooses relationships that honor her worth.
Devon’s Breakthrough
Devon was raised in a culture where being different wasn’t accepted. For years, he’d hidden parts of himself just to fit in. Our work focused on reconnecting with his true identity, finding pride in his story, and learning to take up space without apology. Today, Devon is thriving in his authenticity—on his own terms.
Why This Work Matters
When you do this kind of healing, you’re not just changing your life—you’re shifting the energy for everyone around you. You become the person who ends the cycle. Who says, “This stops with me.” That’s powerful.
Whether or not you have kids, you become a living example of what’s possible when someone chooses healing over hiding, truth over tradition, and love over fear.
This is how we change legacies.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
If you’re ready to stop living by someone else’s rules—and start living by your own truth—I’d be honored to walk this journey with you.
Together, we’ll look at the beliefs and behaviors that have kept you small and help you step into a version of yourself that’s grounded, whole, and wildly free.
You don’t need to have all the answers right now. You just need to take the first step.
Let’s rewrite your story.
Click here to book a free discovery call.
You are worthy of the life you actually want—not the one you were told to settle for.
With love,
Nicole
